For some it is a calling to be answered or a way to start a family. Others find it to be the way to finish their family.
Adoption is not the answer to infertility. Infertility is a physical disability. It is a medical condition that needs treatment. Treatment doesn't always work.
An adopted child is not a replacement for a child lost.
This post is for two lost children.
A child is meant to be treasured, loved and cherished.
Not every child gets that chance. Not every child gets to be swaddled in love and devotion.
This past week marked 1 year since Adam and I lost our twins.
It was heartbreaking, and we had thought that by this time this year we would have two beautiful bouncing babies in our lives.
They were to be born on October 4th, 2012.
Instead the past year was marked by 2 pregnancy announcements (one of twins, no less) and a great deal of emotional upset on our part.
Adam and I do not have our family yet. We have tried every thing in our power, and still we long for what comes easily to so many people. But we have created life from our love for each other, and we will always remember those lives.
We will remember every positive pregnancy test, every loss and every would-be-birthday.
And while we will cherish, love, adore and embrace the children we will have, will will also pay homage and never forget those we have lost.
If you know someone who has experienced pregnancy loss, please take time to acknowledge how hard it is and how painful it will always be. It is a very lonely road.
*tears*
ReplyDeleteMy heart is with you guys. I lost two to tubal pregnancies and I know how devestating that was.
ReplyDeleteThank you. I am so very sorry for your loss. It's a horrid road to travel.
DeleteWe lost 2 angels and didn't realize how common it was and how many others were also struggling until we slowly started confiding. It is still difficult but having the knowledge that you are not alone does help. Thanks for sharing! We have our LO now and wish you well on your journey to yours.
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